The Journey of a Shy, Frightened Child to a Grown Confident Woman


“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

I have come a long way from the shy little girl I was back then to the confident woman I am today. However, getting over the trauma of an unsettled childhood was not easy. Surviving the hardships I faced before took a lot out of me as a child.

One thing that I learned early on during my childhood was that things change and will always change. You just can’t resist change. You have to accept it and move on the best that you can. You have to learn to adapt. I have survived upheaval and loss, but I have also gained incredible strength as a result of it. I have learned to take the good with the bad.

Overcoming adversity can build a lot of confidence in yourself. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. If you want to achieve anything difficult, you have to work hard to get where you want to be and deal with the setbacks along the way. Each setback is a test of your will, and how you handle these tests proves how strong you are.

My journey to find a home has taken me to places where I never imagined I’ll ever visit. Ever since we lost our home in Silesia, East Germany, we moved around a lot and it was hard. Despite the turmoil in the country at that time, I kept my head up because I knew that my mother was there to take care of me and my siblings no matter where we go.

As I grew older my confidence also grew. If I wasn’t sure of myself, I wouldn’t have gone to a foreign country like England to work as an au pair. If I wasn’t sure of myself, I wouldn’t have accepted my employer’s offer of becoming a stewardess for their company. None of the things I have now would not be possible if I was not confident in myself.

All it takes is a little confidence to change your world.

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Anneros Valensi was born in Falkenau, Silesia, East Germany in 1938. She was just six years old when the war and its fallout struck her and her family. Valensi became a registered nurse and in 1961 she moved to London, England working for Standard Telephone & Cables as stewardess on the company plane. While living there, she was hired by Trans World Airlines to train as flight attendant and in 1966 she immigrated to America. She has two children and three grandchildren and currently lives in New York.

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